Mindsets falling in love

We all dream right, the dream in finding the right person who could take our breath away, who can read our mind and know what we’re thinking. Who can put a big smile on our faces even if the world is out there to get us! Notice that in those dreams we never see us trying, the struggles or the process it take for two people to fall in love and trust each other right. I learn a lot reading the book Mindsets the new psychology of success by Carol S. Dweck, PH.D. When you have a bad breakup in your relationship you either have the fix mindset, a person felt judged and labeled by the rejection. All your thought is” how can I get that person to feel the way I felt”, or even “revenge is sweet” when the other person is hurt the way they hurt you. We keep the pain deep inside and sometime would ask ourselves what we did so wrong? In the other hand a person with growth mindsets it was about understanding, forgiving, and just moving on. Every relationship teaches you who the right person for you. The number one goal you have to put in mind is forgiveness. Also growth mindsets know how to move on and embrace the future.

I need to learn how to have a growth mindsets, I am still struggling with letting go off my past relationship that lasted 4 years. How can someone just pick up everything and leave not giving any explanations on why. Right now I have the fix mindset on getting Revenge, reading this small passage made me think of myself in how I’m keeping all the pain in hurt inside. I know it been a couple mouths now but thinking about the one person that you thought you would spend your rest of your life with end up being a person you hate. I’m not feeling sorry for myself,  I just could of wish something’s could of went different.